"Christian Praise Children's Home" in San Fernando City - eMail exchange with Stella Duclayan from the orphanage about use or possible abuse of money donated to the orphanage

Below you find a series of eMail that have been exchange near the end of our relationship. these below emails are copy and paste from the mail protocols saved of that period. inbetween the below emails phone calls have been made as well as direct visits to the orphanage in San Fernando - some of those visits accompanied by witnesses.

the brief and final conclusion is that until today I have zero hard and reliable evidence of any kind and of any trustworthy source that for below mentioned amounts as well as other amounts of the total sum given during the past years Christmas time and post Christmas time have been used for the purpose originally intended.

NO evidence of abuse and NO evidence of correct use as well

it heeds to be emphasized that with the facts missing and known until today - there is NO hard evidence of any abuse of money but due to the repeated strict refusal to provide hard evidence of proper honest USE of the donations there also is NO evidence of honest use of donations given to the orphanage. the repeated and strict refusal to give any timely insight in the use of money given however certainly may be considered a sufficient reason for me to be suspicious and to completely stop direct financial support of such recipient ! what conclusions you may have are up to you - so is your own reaction to such situations only up to you on a very individual basis.

May God bless and guide all people involved.

Hans

God's almighty love is with you

From: Stella Duclayan
To: hans
Subject: greetings
Date: Mon, 17 Jan 2005 20:27:50 +0000 (Tue, 04:27 PHT)

Dear Hans,

I have a problem today. The problem is we don't have money to use in 2 weeks for food, school needs and school tuitions. The truth is we have money arrived yesterday but it needs 2-3 weeks for the bank to clear it out before we can withdraw. What we are thinking to do is to borrow from you if you have available fund then we can repay you back after 3 weeks. Let me know if this is possible. Thank you. Stella

From: Hans Neukomm hans
To: Stella Duclayan
Subject: Re: greetings
Date: Tue, 18 Jan 2005 04:39:34 +0800
Mailer: Evolution 2.0.1

OK


From: Hans Neukomm
To: Stella Duclayan
Subject: today's money is for FOOD and the school tuition you mentioned
Date: Thu, 20 Jan 2005 19:47:20 +0800
Mailer: Evolution 2.0.1

Stella

the 40'000 PHP today are for FOOD for the children and the 10'000 PHP school tuition you mentioned !

take care and save where ever you can
its much easier to save money than to earn money
remember that compared to REAL Philippine situation you at the orphanage are FAR above average rich
none of all normal families has employees for washing laundry or even to have a car ...

by the end of this months the money earning will be left to your big son Ray and other strong family members there - there is LOTS of work potential still to be used by dozens.

there may be one last amount coming - that will most likely be the end of all payments for this year.

the last payment to come is for material to be used for sewing with the new sewing machine to practice with the sewing machine that should arrive soon. let me please know when the sewing machine arrives I would love to see the sewing machine to see what material and threads are needed and helpful for practicing.

you mentioned that you have a previous girl who is tailor in her province now - if you could invite her for a maximum 3 months period - I may pay her a honest real salary and bus travel for the time provided there are several girls among all angels who really are willing to work and learn MANY hours each day besides school and daily house keeping duties.

the other possible option is to find a local tailor willing to teach ... that may be even cheaper.
let me know what you think about that. best is we talk about when I come there next time.

as of march - again all your extra additional problems and all your current expenses need to be paid by regular income of all adults there or other donations.

you have many old children 12 years or older - who can work even while at school - at least part time
i had to do the very same during my childhood - as of the age of 10 I had to work for money

my own first born daughter also had to start working for money at the age of 12 while going to high school.

love and bliss

hans

From: Stella Duclayan
To: hans
Subject: RE: today's money is for FOOD and the school tuition you mentioned
Date: Thu, 20 Jan 2005 15:05:10 +0000 (23:05 PHT)

Thank you for your being generous. I will repay you back as soon as the money be cleared. I told you before that I will borrow. I will inform you when the sewing and washing machine arrives. Regarding the girl that I told you who finished her tailoring and dressmaking course is not available this time because she is teaching the people in her village to sew for their livelihood. We have one who is available to come and teach the girls as soon as the machine arrives. Thank you. Stella


From: Hans Neukomm
To: Stella Duclayan
Subject: RE: today's money is for FOOD and the school tuition you mentioned
Date: Thu, 20 Jan 2005 23:53:41 +0800
Mailer: Evolution 2.0.1

Stella

i told you the money is a gift
honest people NEVER borrow money
they earn money and if too much then give it away
if the parents or relatives would have half as much money as the orphanage has
they all could keep the children at home
if you dont want to give money to the parents of this angels
then you can give it to the poor families in catbangen

i work for my own money and never take money back

please keep me informed when the washing machine and the sewing machine arrrives

God bless

hans

if one day you have too much money then you can give it to the parents of your angels to help them raise the children at home instead of given them away

From: Stella Duclayan
To: hans
Subject: RE: today's money is for FOOD and the school tuition you mentioned
Date: Thu, 20 Jan 2005 21:00:09 +0000 (Fri, 05:00 PHT)

Thank you once again. I understand that the money is a gift. I will use the money according to its purpose. I am doing my best to spend it only for the children and save it for their future needs. Thank you and God bless. Stella


From: Stella Duclayan
To: hans
Subject: greetings
Date: Fri, 21 Jan 2005 21:41:14 +0000 (Sat, 05:41 PHT)

Dear Hans,

Thank you for the bread that was brought by Mami Amparo from you. I would like to inform you that we decided to let the big girls to attend a summer class in dressmaking course. The people from a technical school here came yesterday and offered a free course in dressmaking to our girls for 2 months in which they are free during thse months. They said that for 10 girls they need 3 sewing machines. We will buy from them good machines and even cheaper. We will buy 2 and they will give us 1 for free. So we can wait until the school ends in March to start the sewing. I deposited the money for the sewing machine. You said you will soon have the money for materials. The girls can have the materials in April when they begin to learn how to sew. I would like to hear from you about it. Thank you. Stella


From: Hans Neukomm
To: Stella Duclayan
Subject: some details please about sewing machines and tech college
Date: Sat, 22 Jan 2005 21:10:28 +0800
Mailer: Evolution 2.0.1

Stella

please give me the model number and model name of the 3 singer sewing machines you get and the full address of the technical college and person in charge there for the sewing course to be held for your 10 girls

love and bliss

hans

From: Stella Duclayan
To: hans
Subject: RE: some details please about sewing machines and tech college
Date: Sun, 23 Jan 2005 05:30:37 +0000 (13:30 PHT)

I can't give you this time until the end of March because it will be different people who will conduct the training. Anyway as soon as I will get in touch with the person, I will inform you about it. Thank you. Stella


From: Stella Duclayan
To: hans
Subject: RE: some details please about sewing machines and tech college
Date: Sun, 23 Jan 2005 18:10:58 +0000 (Mon, 02:10 PHT)

Dear Hans,

I can't give you the address of the technical school. It's a link from different technical schools. The personnels have no specific adresses. They came only to conduct survey if how many students they will have. They planned even to use one of the classrooms here. So if you are interested to meet them yourself, please wait until the end of March with the sewing machines with different models.

I would like to thank you for all your extra hardwork to earn money. I would rather suggest that you help your families in Catbangen because they deliberately need help than us here as you have said. See you in March. Thank you. Stella


From: Hans Neukomm
To: Stella Duclayan
Subject: RE: some details please about sewing machines and tech college
Date: Sun, 23 Jan 2005 14:34:39 +0800
Mailer: Evolution 2.0.1

Stella

you wrote earlier
"....... The people from a technical school here came ......."
WHAT / which technical school ?????? you know the name of that technical school and can find out the full address of that technical school
pls give me NOW - latest by tomorrow night - the exact address of THAT technical school
i will find the person in charge myself.
please also give me the model name and model number of the sewing machines
i need these data for my records NOW.
thanks in advance for your full soonest cooperation

love and bliss

hans

From: Stella Duclayan
To: hans
Subject: RE: some details please about sewing machines and tech college
Date: Mon, 24 Jan 2005 00:49:43 +0000 (08:49 PHT)

I told you before

I told you before that we changed the plans to buy the sewing machine now. I explained to you that the technical school personnels are offering to buy 2 from them with 1 free. So , I told you that I deposited the sewing machine money to buy the machines in March. I can't give you the names of the girls yet this time. Stella

From: Hans Neukomm
To: Stella Duclayan
Subject: RE: some details please about sewing machines and tech college
Date: Mon, 24 Jan 2005 11:03:18 +0800
Mailer: Evolution 2.0.1

Stella

i know what you said / wrote very exactly !
i also fully realize that for more than a month now you never have any facts about any of the machines planed or ordered
you never had any address of a dealer ...

i am working since more than 30 years in some 40 countries on 4 continents several years for very large international humanitarian organization

this is the FIRST time that someone has NO FATS to give for such amounts received and meant to be invested for such machinery and educational projects

i wish within 7 days - i.e. until NEXT Monday, January 31st 2005

the names - first name, family name and birth day - of all 10 girls who are scheduled to attend the sewing course

* and
* a contact information for any person in charge of the "technical school"
* and
* receipt for the 10'000 PHP school tuition for school books / material paid to "manila"
* and
* proof of the deposits made / mentioned by you

if you Stella as the responsible person for such activities plan to send 10 of your girls to a sewing course
then you need to have FACTS !

to send 10 girls to a sewing course means you have a PLAN for 10 girls and thus also names in that plan of 10 girls suitable AND interested in such a sewing course for such huge sums and of course in any such plan you truly have ANY kind of precise address or contact information of at least ONE person of that "technical school" that offers such courses

i wish to have a copy of each invoice/receipt of the deposit made for

3 sewing machines ordered - with EXACT model name and model number and price per machine

1. washing machine ordered - since the washing machine IS already ordered and supposed to ARRIVE before the end of THIS months I am sure you have the PRECISE address, model, brand and price of that machine already. I wish to have that information as well as the full address of the dealer for it.

2. the 10'000 PHP school tuition fee you mentioned to be invoiced for school material from "manila"

3. I love to have PROOF of the whereabout of the sums deposited for sewing-machine, sewing material, washing machine and school tuition manila - and I will NEVER accept a "dont know" or later as true fact !!

honest people in charge of that many angels have precise plans to manage such an orphanage consuming such huge funds with that many vehicles and inventory and such plans.

* I need FACTS for my reports to be published
* I need proof that the money is REALLY used for what you wrote and said
* I wish to have the FULL address of the institution in manila that sends you the school material / books for the 2 x 10'000 PHP you mentioned
* if ALL that sum is deposited with your bank - then I wish to have a copy of the payment slip with proof that the amount still exists in your bank

i need PROOF of the whereabout of that money intended to be for washing machine, sewing machine, sewing course, sewing material and school tuition fee paid to manila !! I wish to have all above asap and truthfully

56 children from age 4 to 17 are lots of children to be responsible for - for so many years by you and your husband Abraham
i am sure you have precise facts and plans that can be published for the FULL satisfaction of ALL.

Stella - NO true information with NO details is NO acceptable option at all !!

Stella

NOW after that many repeated answers WITHOUT ANY facts of anything ordered, without any names or addresses, with washing machine still pending - you simply made me suspicious., in all the years of charity and humanitarian work I NEVER EVER experienced or met a person working for charity like you who had received SUCH sums without having ANY details, facts, names and addresses at all.

such large operations like the orphanage are conducted by honest professionals like you and Abraham - I am sure you can easily disperse and fully dissolve any suspicion I have as of these past days with simple true facts - by providing simple and true facts such as you would and will when facing God all such suspicion will instantly be gone.

love and bliss

hans


From: Stella Duclayan
To: hans
Subject: No Subject
Date: Thu, 27 Jan 2005 16:59:36 +0000 (Fri, 00:59 PHT)

Dear Mr. Hans,

Before I will respond to your demands, I would like first to know where and how did you get the money you spent for the children last Christmas and so with the money you brought. I need it ASAP.

I am also suggesting you to stop bringing fruits and vegetables to the HOME. Where are you getting money to buy these fruits???????? Thank you. Stella

From: Hans Neukomm
To: Stella Duclayan
Subject: Re: No Subject
Date: Fri, 28 Jan 2005 01:45:35 +0800
Mailer: Evolution 2.0.1

Stella

all the money I spent for the orphanage is from family members and friends from Germany, Italy and USA, as well as from my own overseas income - one amount of PHP 7100 spent for Christmas party plus another PHP 1000 from 2 other guests of bali hai

i am fully responsible for full verification of its legal and honest use for the benefit of the angel children of the orphanage and since you appear to have difficulties in proving the correct use of the money for the purpose we discussed I have reason to be suspicious and I am of course ready to receive all truthful information to publish the details as usual on my web site.

God is Love - so should all pastors and people working for God and all Christian charity organizations be
hence any doubts need to be cleared in divine love

your request to stop bringing fruits for the children however may further contribute to the suspicion that there may be something wrong or there might be something to hide

i am sure both - you Stella and your husband Abraham - can easily disperse such thoughts, doubts and suspicions by proving legal and loving use of the money for the precise use you mentioned and we agreed upon - specially that the sums are used for the purpose you indicated in earlier emails.

if however there is something wrong at the orphanage, or some of the money has been used for other purpose that what we agreed upon, then I am ready to receive with love a truthful and full confession about the real whereabout ... God's love includes the power of forgiveness and mercy toward all in all situations - however God's love also does include full and true honesty in all situations toward all. any damage done or occurred - any loss of funds that might have occurred may need to be repaired.

on the other side if problems persist - i.e. if proof of proper use of the money is missing by next Monday Jan 31st, 2005 then it shall be very clear that I am also ready to ask Philippine authorities in San Fernando AND/OR Manila for assistance in clarification. the reputation of Christian charity depends on honest use of all donations in all cases of this country and any other country on this planet. the wellbeing of ALL children is my first and only concern - it also should be your only concern.

if you insist in me staying out of the orphanage / Christian praise fellowship - then I may safely assume there might be something to hide or wrong and I would then inform other local persons for help in assuring all children are safe and if necessary I would ask proper authorities for advice and a verification of the orphanage

if all is honest and correct - you will have zero problems in providing the data and information requested

it is common practice in all global charity to always have all details published or presented in full to the public and all / every party interested.

love and bliss

hans


From: Stella Duclayan
To: hans
Subject: Re: No Subject
Date: Sat, 29 Jan 2005 23:21:14 +0000 (Sun, 07:21 PHT)
Dear Mr. Hans,

I understand that a very simple explanation of the changed plan to purchase the machines was not understood by you, instead you went ahead and accused me of so many things.

I would like to repeat my explanation to you regarding the sewing machine. When you first came to us and gave the money as your gift to the Home, you asked me what are we going to do with it. I said we will buy a sewing machine and a washing machine. The following day, we went to find and inquire from the different sales stores and couldn't find the best. The salesman said that they will order for us but it takes time from 2-3 weeks becuase it's the end of the year. Finally our orders came but it's not the kind we like. What we like to buy is the best one though it's expensive but it will last longer. When you asked about it, I told you that we are still in the process of ordering to make sure that we will purchase the best one. The following day, one of the personnels from a technical school came and reminded me of their offer last December for free dressmaking to our girls. We chat together about the sewing machine and when to start the course. The agreement was to buy the sewing machine from them because they have the best for light and heavy materials. It was agreed upon that 10 girls will need at least 3 sewing machines. These machines will be purchased at the end of March to be ready for the 2nd week of April. This was the explanation I gave you when you kept on asking about it and you said OK. I then deposited the money for the machine. After all, you accused me of so many things and have said many things against me and the work. By then I don't have time to reply because we are so busy. Now I have time to reply because I know it's my time.

If you can't wait until March to see the machines and see by your naked eyes the receipts you are demamding, then we must as well return your money-THE SO CALLED CHRISTMAS GIFT- you gave to the Home. You are so demanding and you want to control.

I have so many reasons why I told you to stop coming to the Home with your fruits and vegetables because our children NOT YOUR ANGEL CHILDREN as you always claimed are scared from you. The big girls are running away from you when ever you enter the compound. We asked them why and told us about it. Last December when you offered yourself to cook, you brought wine for your cooking. They saw you drank wine and you even told them to drink that they will not be ignorant. It questioned their mind and suspected that you are a drunkard. You know what?????? WINE IS NOT ALLOWED IN THE HOME AND TO DRINK WINE IS EVEN WORSE FOR THE CHILDREN TO SEE. By that time, they started to dislike your coming and they told us about it. This is the main reason aside from other reasons that I told you not to come anymore. We are concern for the well-being of the children. You suspected us again that we are hiding something. We have nothing to hide because we are doing right. You even threatened us that if we insist to dislike your visit to the Home, you will call authorities. Don't try to scare us because all of the top government officials and their agency in San Fernando are with us. They appreciate the work we are doing and we have complete paper documents. If you insist and accusing us then we will be force to let them investigate you and your work. You have all the complete information about the orphanage and you said that this is your work when you beg money from your friends. This is not your work.

To end up everything with you, we will return your money if this is what you like. It was just a simple matter but you made complicated. I thought you are an educated man as you have claimed that you are even a doctor but cannot understand simple explanation. Thank you. Stella


God's almighty love is with you

so far all emails between Stella and myself from this brief period about this one small amount ( PHP 60'000 ) donated to the orphanage. I accept full responsibility for my part of giving such amounts to such persons or that particular institution. no one having contributed to that above amount or other amounts given to above orphanage as a result of my call for help has been held free of damage as any amount given to the orphanage without proof of proper use has been compensated for by giving an equal amount to OTHER children or needy ones in the Philippines including paying school tuition for needy ones in the months after above period until end of May 2005!

author's note:

until this very day - August 18th 2005 there never has been any proof provided by Stella that the money has been used according to its original intentions NOR has there ever been any amount returned to me.

God is love - and all people have to face their own consciousness before returning home. hence it first of all is Stella's and her husbands duty to have a clean heart and know what they do and whether what they do is correct, true in all aspects and every detail ...

it never is up to humans to judge nor to condemn anyone - even for possible mistakes done. after some 30+ years of international work and travel including many years of work for a large humanitarian organization - I came to the conclusion to stop direct financial support or support in any kind to the "Christian Praise Children's Home", San Fernando City as well as to any other similar institution and to focus any help directly on needy individual persons or families rather than organizations failing to fully cooperate or failing to provide proof of correct use of funds given.

money directly given to individual families and individual persons for direct school tuition, medical care or other needs of daily life can easier be verified than money given to institutions refusing to provide ANY receipt or evidence of use of money at all such as in above case with the orphanage in San Fernando La Union.

Needs to be said that after all the years of international work - THIS orphanage is the only institution strictly and repeatedly refusing any insight in papers, invoices, receipts and money management.

My recommendation to eventual global readers is short and precise - it will however be up to you what and how you handle similar situations.

give money in any amount where money is needed. help where help is needed - help in abundance but avoid waste of money by making sure your hard earned donations are actually used where needed. it is far easier and more efficient to give money directly to families in need to AVOID the need of social welfare, orphanages or similar organizations. feed children with fruits, buy dresses for those having need ...

avoid repeated donations where the proper and honest use of funds received is questionable or where proof is correct use is neither visible in progress of a project nor provided otherwise.

after the few black sheep we may encounter there are still millions of occasions left where money really is needed, most welcome and used in accordance to your intentions.

THIS case with Stella from the orphanage certainly was the worst of all - I had many other cases of abused donations, abused help, abused love ... however all others before always were minor cases of loss and loss we always may encounter as long as we wish to spontaneously help where governments fail to help.

God's almighty love is with you


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