|Parting from a wrong partner, I need your guidance|
Dear Hans and other beloved members of this forum
I need your guidance.
We’ve been a couple for 2 years. However, at the beginning I knew that I don’t love her much. But I told her that I love her because I’m afraid she would cry if she knew that I don’t love her. For 2 years I always try to make her happy. I fulfill most of her wish to the most my ability. I behave to her like any real lover would behave. I tell her I love her again and again. Though I know in the deep of my heart that I don’t love her, I thought that I would never tell her that truth until the end of this life. And she doesn’t recognize, she loves me a lot, I think.
But I feel so guilty because I lied to her. I make her love me though I don’t love her and when she loves me so much, I leave her. Am I right to leave her? Is her love for me true love: she loves me what ever I do or say, whether I’m good or bad. She said she will waits for me to come back to her. I see that she has become a different woman from the one I lied to.
Am I right to leave her? Am I rejecting her unconditional love? Should I come back and see if I could love her new characteristics?
Currently, I feel happy because I could do anything and meet anyone I like. I feel I’m free again. I wasn’t able to do that before because I’m afraid that would make her unhappy, so I was with her only and having very few friends. But she has been doing everything with me and now, when I leave her suddenly, she feels so upset because everything she do makes her miss me so much. And that makes me feel guilty and sorry so much. I blame myself for being so weak not to say goodbye to her earlier. I’m afraid that she won’t have a normal life without me. Am I too boasting?
So dear Hans, please tell me what I should do: Leave and never meet her again, or come back with her, or be with her and with the one I really love at the same time, or ….?
I’m sorry for any spelling or grammar mistakes I made. I’m waiting for your answer.
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