Love is the key to true happiness - however we have 2 basic differences in love - selfish love and selfless love. But how to find our yourself how selfless you are and why the need for selfless love ?
Here below I give you a precise means to measure or evaluate your own level of selflessness.
From an earlier chapter we have already accurate data to use as reference - please reopen your spiritual goals worksheet - worksheet #3 - if its empty may be you fear the truth ? - Never mind - drop your fear and look at it, God will help you to digest the truth and learn to make adjustments toward more selfless love.
In all creation we all need to do something to ..
Basic life support is part of caring for the body and life God gave you. Such efforts are neutral - neither selfish nor selfless !.
Then beyond basic life support we have
Efforts invested in our living above basic needs, luxury items, cars, Hi-Fi, houses, vacation, ... is focused toward our very personal fun and is part of love FOR ourselves FROM ourselves. Ego centric love - many work ONLY for their own wellbeing, for their own fun and joy of life. To increase their own standard of living, level of luxury, their own health, .etc. All such efforts, time, money, working hours and resources used for that is of purely selfish nature.
Examples for selfish love:
Workers or employees whose sole purpose of life is to work to pay their rent, to pay their own living and family support, to pay their own housing, own education, own vacation, recreation, ... and to maintain their job and basis of living are almost 100 % of selfish nature.
You have to understand that what we do for our direct family - partner and children is first of all selfish - as our family members are our most direct source of love and joy in life. No matter how stingy a person, usually at least he gives SOME love in various ways to his very nearest family members as he expects their love and enjoys their love day by day specially during times of crisis, joblessness, retirement, illness, handicap, ...
If however we invest substantial amounts of thoughts to find solutions for others, to help others, to relief others, to create fun for others, to heal others, to create or reestablish freedom in others .. all such efforts are purely or mainly selfless love.
Examples for selfless love
Some others may do the opposite and work almost 100 % FOR others - such as
It is NEVER the job but rather the attitude and motivation WHY you have or do a particular job that makes the main difference between selfish love and selfless love !!!
One and the same job can be done sometimes selfish or selfless ! Lets have a look at a few such examples:
There is a direct relationship between money, time, work, investments and efforts
- you make for your self and / or your family
- you make for others
If you look at numbers and fact from your worksheet - then you see your relationship of how much you do directly for yourself, for your direct family and you compare that number of hours, $, efforts, investments, with the efforts you do for OTHERS - then you have the ration between your selfish love vs selfless love within your present life.
To make my explanations easier I give you a few examples of the opposite.
a taxi driver - being fully occupied taking care of his car, getting properly dressed, checking tires, oil and gas, all day long, .. has spent all time for himself and hence potential customers find him occupied !
a girl sitting in front of mirror - making herself more and more colorful, spending hours of time with hairdresser, manicure, pedicure, beauty parlor, fitness center, health center, meditation and beauty sleep ... is fully occupied !
The thoughts YOU have FOR yourself OCCUPY your aura and fill you - your entire being - YOU fill yourself with YOUR own love - hence where would there be any "space" for love from partner or family members - from your loved once !!
If a glass bottle intended to be for milk - to serve as milk bottle - is fully filled with glass
- then how can milk enter that full bottle please ??
Did you ever realize or experience that ...
If someone ELSE cooks or bakes FOR you - that will usually taste much better than if you would prepare the very same food yourself FOR you !?
Or if someone else GIVES you a gentle loving massage - it feels much different / better than if you would give yourself a massage ?!
Or that someone ELSE singing FOR you is more pleasant to listen to than if YOU would listen to tapes from YOUR very own songs !!
Hence if and as long as YOU are busy caring FOR you and busy WITH you - you are occupied and thus no one else can give any love TO you !! A human being in a certain way behaves and acts like a container - there is ONE amount or quantity of love in total "fitting into" or having "place" inside you - your love OR other's people's love OR much of your love and little love from other's ...
the sum of BOTH equals 100% ... but ...
Other people's love is by far more savory and delicious to feel than your very own love !
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